My girlfriend and I call it decompressing. It doesn’t even have to be a demanding day, just a long day or honestly any kind of day. We’re both introverts and we’re neurodivergent, so we tend to burn out very quickly. Even though I’m usually at my job for about five hours a shift, driving two hours to get to and from work and all the socialization it takes to work with this kid is exhausting, especially at the end of the day.
When I get home, I usually just go into my room and change into pajamas, sometimes though I’ll just jump straight into bed. Once in bed, I basically just watch videos, play mobile games, listen to music, etc. So long as I’m alone in my room with my own thoughts existing outside of the rest of the world for a time. That’s all I really need. A little alone time where I don’t have to think or do anything except lay in bed.
I know it isn’t entirely healthy to just laze in bed most of the day, but I’ve gotten better about getting out of bed before noon and getting some stuff done. I don’t feel as guilty just relaxing in my bed at the end of the day when I managed to accomplish a lot before work. Occasionally, I’ll have the energy to talk to my girlfriend about our days and other events and funny stories. The two of us can talk for hours, sometimes staying up way after we meant to go to bed. I still like to greet her though before disappearing into my room.
A lot of times I’ll end up eating my dinner in my room, but I would like to avoid eating meals in my room now so I don’t hoard dishes in there. I do enjoy my alone time to just recharge after a long day of being awake and socializing and doing things, but I do want to spend more time with my girlfriend. It’s just hard since we both have conflicting schedules. At least, she understands though. She too has to decompress after work and oftentimes ends up taking a nap or snuggling with our cat on the couch while watching TV. Either way, our system works for us.
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